Written in fall of 2015…..
The steam from my cinnamon spice rooibos tea lazily escapes my cup. I find myself sitting in a local coffee shop that I frequent for their eclectic vibe and their coffee or amazing array of tea. There is just something about unique coffee shops that warms my soul and helps uncork my creative thought process. I look around at all of the people sitting here doing various things from solving life’s problems with a close friend to typing away on their computers and part of me wonders about their story. What are they working on? Are they follow a passion? Are they struggling to find a way to justify to themselves or others as to why they should follow a dream? Are they happy with their life?
We are all at different points on our journey towards what we want. Some of you may be well on your way while some of you may see the starting line but are simply afraid to step up to take that first crucial step. And maybe some of you have turned your back on the line all together. Where are you in your journey and if you are still at the starting line, what is stoping you from taking that first step? If you have given up, why is that?
Perhaps you are comfortable in your current situation and think, why change? Maybe you are afraid of the unknown and because of that, decide that knowing is better than not. But by not going after or even waiting in some instances for what you want, you are settling. For example, settling into a relationship that turns into something to do while waiting for Mr./Mrs. Right. What you don’t realize is how many of those relationships lazily float into living together and marriage because “well we have been together long enough, we are comfortable with each other, and that is the next step that couples take”.
I graduated college in 2009 and I was unsure of what I wanted to do with my life. I graduated with an exercise science degree which is practically useless when it comes to obtaining a job, or at least one that pays enough to cover more than your rent. So I applied for college swim coaching jobs to see if I enjoyed coaching and to possibly bide myself more time to figure out what I wanted to do with my life if coaching wasn’t it. As I was applying for jobs, it came down to two colleges. As I thought about what college I would want to coach at, assuming I was offered a position at both, I decided that I would regret not coaching at Davidson College more so than Bucknell. If you are unfamiliar with both areas, Davidson is 30 min north of Charlotte, NC and right near Lake Norman (which is a massive man made lake) while Bucknell is located in PA (3-4 hrs from home) in a very small town and not near water whatsoever (yes, i love water). Luckily I was offered the Davidson job and the decision was easily made! I only coached there for a year before I obtained another coaching job at Youngstown State University, but I never regretted my decision. I did not settle for what may have been the more “comfortable” decision.
While I was in Youngstown, I met someone that impacted my life at the perfect time. I was getting my masters in school counseling while coaching, and the more I went through the program, I wondered if I was just doing this because it was the “smart” thing to do, to have a plan B. This person wasn’t making a ton of money, yet he was doing what he loved. As I watched him live his life, it became contagious. He was also very supportive of me and convinced me to go after what I wanted which lead me to competing in figure and then starting my online nutrition coaching business. He also introduced me to Crossfit and my future employers after none of my school counseling job applications/interviews panned out. Not only did he give me a taste of what following your passions felt like, but my opportunities in life were falling in place like God Himself was escorting me through each new open door.
Here I sit typing this blog sitting outside at a coffee shop in between coaching and nutrition client calls. I am a few months away from being able to be a complete entrepreneur if I choose to do so. I have coached swimming whether it was summer league or Division I, worked as a strength and conditioning coach, personal trained, worked at lululemon, worked events for About Time, coached at a CrossFit gym, and now am the head coach at an unaffiliated gym. I have done a lot of various jobs to pay the bills and to be sure I knew exactly what I wanted to do. Once I figured out that nutrition coaching was my #1 passion, then I continued down that route as I worked multiple jobs to get myself to a point where I can solely support myself doing only what I love. Was it always an easy journey? Well to be honest, it wasn’t all that bad. I was completely fine with the idea of working multiple jobs to pay the bills so I could pursue what I loved and I believe your perception of any journey has a lot to do with your attitude.
So what do you want to achieve? What is stopping you from going after it or at least taking baby steps in that direction? Just like weight loss, it is not the length of time it took you to reach your goal, but the fact that you decided to make a change and went after your goal/passion. So make a decision. Start now. Take those baby steps because there is nothing like looking back and seeing how far you’ve come. #noregrets